20 Femdom Tasks For New Dommes To Try

In-Person Relationship Femdom Tasks and Activities

In-person dynamics in femdom relationships provide ample opportunities for engaging interactions, where the dominant partner can directly influence their submissive’s experiences.

Assigning tasks not only emphasizes the power dynamic but also creates memorable and enjoyable moments. Here are ten detailed tasks and activities that can strengthen your bond in an in-person setting.

1. Chore Assignment

Transform mundane household chores into fulfilling tasks by assigning them to your submissive with specific conditions. For example, ask them to do laundry while wearing a specific outfit that you have chosen. This adds a playful twist to everyday chores, reinforcing their submissive role while also making them feel like they are contributing to your shared environment.

• Implementation Tip: You can create a list of chores that they can choose from, allowing them to feel some agency while still submitting to your authority. Chores could include:
  • Folding laundry in their chosen outfit.
  • Cleaning the kitchen while following a particular dress code.

This combination of submission and responsibility can enhance their sense of purpose in the relationship.

2. Gagged Grocery Shopping

Send your submissive to the grocery store while wearing a gag or some other item that symbolizes their submissive status. This task serves as a form of public humiliation, making them acutely aware of their submission as they navigate their errands.

• Implementation Tip: To make this task more exciting, provide a shopping list that includes items that you specifically want. You could also have them call you during the shopping trip to report on their experience, which adds an extra layer of thrill.

Such activities can foster a sense of adventure while reinforcing the submissive’s awareness of their role.

3. Service Tasks

Encourage your submissive to perform acts of service for you, such as preparing meals, running errands, or giving you a massage. These tasks highlight their devotion and willingness to cater to your needs while reinforcing the dominant/submissive dynamic.

• Implementation Tip: Be specific about what you want them to do and how you want it done. For example:
  • “Prepare dinner for us and serve it to me while I relax.”
  • “Give me a foot massage while I unwind after a long day.”

Setting clear expectations allows your sub to fully understand their responsibilities and increases their sense of fulfillment in serving you.

4. Dress Code Enforcement

Establish specific clothing guidelines for your submissive to follow during your time together. This could include lingerie, collars, or outfits that reflect their submissive role, further asserting your authority over their presentation.

• Implementation Tip: You can set themes for different days or occasions, such as:
  • “Lingerie Sunday” where they must wear a specific set of lingerie.
  • “Formal Friday” where they dress up in an outfit of your choice.

By controlling their attire, you enhance their submissive experience while also encouraging them to express their identity within the dynamic.

5. Public Display of Submission

Take your submissive out on a date but impose certain rules, such as requiring them to address you as “Mistress” in public or asking for permission before speaking. This task can create an exhilarating atmosphere of submission, allowing both partners to relish in the thrill of the experience.

• Implementation Tip: Prepare your submissive beforehand by discussing the rules they must follow during the outing. You might also want to select a venue that feels comfortable yet slightly daring, ensuring that both of you enjoy the experience.

This task not only tests their commitment but also deepens the bond between you as you navigate the social landscape together.

6. Discipline and Punishment

Establish a set of rules for your submissive to follow, and impose a system of discipline for when they falter. Punishments can range from a simple reprimand to more intense forms of discipline, such as spanking or writing lines, reinforcing boundaries and the nature of the power exchange.

• Implementation Tip: Make sure to discuss the rules and consequences beforehand. Examples of rules might include:
  • No speaking without permission.
  • Completing specific chores by a certain time.

Clarity around expectations and consequences fosters trust and accountability in the relationship.

7. Sensory Play

Incorporate sensory deprivation into your sessions. Blindfold your submissive and guide them through different sensations using items like feathers, ice, or wax. This task heightens their awareness of your control and can lead to intense pleasure.

• Implementation Tip: Create an atmosphere conducive to sensory exploration by dimming the lights and playing soft music. Experiment with different sensations, and pay attention to your submissive’s reactions to gauge what they enjoy most.

This exploration can enhance intimacy and create lasting memories that both partners cherish.

8. Submissive Journal

Encourage your submissive to keep a journal reflecting on their feelings, experiences, and tasks assigned to them. This exercise serves as a valuable tool for self-reflection and can help you both understand each other’s needs better.

• Implementation Tip: Schedule regular sessions to review the journal together, discussing their entries and any emotions that arose during their submission. This practice fosters open communication and can lead to deeper emotional intimacy.

This approach not only strengthens your connection but also allows for growth and understanding in the dynamic.

9. Role Reversal Day

Every once in a while, switch roles for a day. Allow your submissive to take the lead while you follow their instructions. This exercise provides valuable insights into each other’s experiences and can enhance empathy within the relationship.

• Implementation Tip: Discuss beforehand what the day will entail and set ground rules to ensure that both partners feel safe and respected. This could involve your submissive planning the day’s activities or choosing how to direct you.

This role reversal can deepen your understanding of each other’s perspectives, fostering greater appreciation for your dynamic.

10. Creative Writing Assignment

Have your submissive write a short story or fantasy involving their submission to you. This exercise allows them to express their desires creatively and can serve as a powerful reminder of their loyalty when shared.

• Implementation Tip: Provide specific guidelines for the writing, such as themes, scenarios, or even character development. You might suggest they include elements of your dynamic or reflect on their feelings about submission.

Sharing these stories can lead to insightful discussions and a richer emotional connection, enhancing the overall experience for both partners.

Online Femdom Tasks To Try

The online aspect of femdom relationships opens up a unique realm of possibilities for connection, creativity, and exploration. Whether you are engaging through messaging, video calls, or social media, online tasks can be tailored to suit both the preferences of the dominant partner and the submissive’s boundaries.

Here are ten detailed tasks that dommes can assign to their submissives, incorporating elements of humiliation, chastity, CBT (Cock and Ball Torture), and other exciting dynamics.

1. Daily Check-Ins

Establishing a routine of daily check-ins is an excellent way to maintain communication and accountability in an online femdom relationship. Require your submissive to send you a message each day detailing their thoughts, feelings, and any tasks you’ve assigned. This not only keeps them accountable but also reinforces your authority over their daily life.

• Implementation Tip: You can structure these check-ins by asking specific questions such as:
  • How do you feel about your submission today?
  • What tasks have you completed?
  • Is there anything you struggled with?

Encouraging them to be open and honest can lead to deeper emotional intimacy and help you understand their needs better.

2. Chastity Maintenance

For submissives who are in chastity, assigning tasks related to the upkeep of their chastity devices can enhance the experience and reinforce their submission. Ask your sub to perform maintenance duties, such as cleaning or adjusting the device. Additionally, you can require them to send you photos as proof of compliance.

• Implementation Tip: You can create a schedule for maintenance, such as:
  • Cleaning the device every Sunday.
  • Checking the fit and comfort level once a week.

By being actively involved in their chastity routine, you remind your sub of their submissive status and the control you hold over their pleasure.

3. Online Humiliation

Public humiliation can be a thrilling aspect of the femdom dynamic for many submissives. Have your sub share their submission to you on social media, using specific phrases or hashtags that highlight their submissive status. This not only serves as public acknowledgment of their submission but also reinforces their loyalty to you.

• Implementation Tip: Create a list of phrases or hashtags that your sub must use in their posts. For example:
  • #OwnedByMistress
  • “I exist to serve my Mistress.”

Encouraging them to engage with your online presence by liking or commenting on your posts can further enhance their feeling of submission.

4. CBT Tasks

For those who enjoy Cock and Ball Torture (CBT), assigning specific tasks that involve self-pleasure restrictions or the use of specific devices can enhance the experience. Prioritize safety and ensure that you discuss boundaries before assigning any CBT tasks.

• Implementation Tip: You might ask your sub to:
  • Use a CBT device for a certain number of hours each day.
  • Send you a daily report on their experiences, including any difficulties faced during the task.

Establishing clear guidelines allows for a fulfilling experience while ensuring that both partners remain safe and respected.

5. Embarrassing Tasks

Instruct your sub to wear embarrassing clothing or accessories during online activities, such as video calls or chats. This could include collars, specific outfits, or even feminine attire if that aligns with their desires. Such tasks can emphasize their submissive role and add an exciting layer to your dynamic.

• Implementation Tip: You could set a theme for each week, such as:
  • “Heavy chastity day” where they must wear a bulky and heavy metal chastity cage all day.
  • “Lingerie Day,” where they must wear lingerie while attending to their daily tasks.

Encouraging them to share photos of their outfits can create a sense of playfulness and fun.

6. Video Submissions

Request your sub to create and send videos performing specific tasks or obeying your commands. This could involve anything from reciting your rules to demonstrating their submission. These recordings serve as tangible reminders of their role and can also be a source of arousal for both partners.

• Implementation Tip: Encourage creativity in their video submissions by providing specific themes or scenarios. For example:
  • “Create a video explaining why you love being my sub.”
  • “Record yourself following one of my commands and share your feelings afterward.”

The more personal and authentic the videos feel, the more they will resonate with the dynamic.

7. Public Exposure

Encourage your sub to join forums or chat groups related to BDSM and openly discuss their submissive experiences. This task allows them to share their journey with others while reinforcing their commitment to submission. Engaging in discussions can also provide new insights and ideas, contributing to their growth within the dynamic.

• Implementation Tip: Suggest specific forums or groups that align with their interests, and ask them to report back on their discussions. Examples might include:
  • Submitting their experiences on FetLife.
  • Joining specific groups on Reddit dedicated to BDSM.

This exposure can lead to a sense of community and shared experiences, enhancing their sense of belonging in the lifestyle.

8. Retweet Slavery

Engage your submissive in the concept of “retweet slavery,” where they are required to retweet your posts or share specific content across their social media profiles as directed by you. This task emphasizes their role as your obedient sub and allows you to control how they present themselves online.

• Implementation Tip: You can create a schedule for retweeting, requiring them to retweet a certain number of your posts daily or weekly. Additionally, you might assign them to write captions that express their submission to you alongside the retweets, reinforcing the power dynamic.

This task not only promotes their obedience but also serves to publicly display their commitment to you within the online community.

9. Purchasing Used Underwear

For a more personal and intimate task, instruct your submissive to purchase your used underwear and wear it over their face or as a part of their attire. This act can be incredibly humiliating and exciting, emphasizing their submission while also allowing you to exert control over a deeply personal item.

• Implementation Tip: Ensure you provide clear instructions on how they should wear the underwear and any specific scenarios where they should do so (e.g., during a video call or while completing another task). You can also request photos of them wearing the underwear, which can serve as a reminder of their role and deepen their sense of submission.

This task can create a connection that intertwines both humiliation and intimacy, enriching the overall dynamic.

10. Findom Tasks

Incorporate financial domination (findom) into your dynamic by assigning tasks that require your submissive to send you money as a sign of their devotion. This can range from small tributes to larger sums, depending on your agreed-upon boundaries.

• Implementation Tip: You can find more information about findom and how to integrate it into your relationship by checking out this article on Findom. This resource outlines the essential aspects of findom relationships, including how to establish boundaries and expectations.

Establishing findom tasks can add an exciting financial aspect to your dynamic, further emphasizing the power imbalance while also allowing for a deeper exploration of trust and submission.

Ready To Try These Femdom Tasks?

Don’t be afraid to try any of these tasks regardless if your relationship is online or in person. In person relationships can actually still enjoy the kinkiness of online play in a consensual and fun way.

For example, Princess Sienna Stomps is known to publicly humiliate her IRL slave by posting pictures of his ass on her X account.

And at the same time, her female led relationship is a real life 24-7 domination dynamic. You can see an inside look at her and her sub’s femdom relationship on her free OnlyFans.

By actively engaging in these online activities, both dommes and subs can cultivate a fulfilling and exciting femdom relationship that thrives on trust, creativity, and mutual respect.

The key to a successful online dynamic lies in open communication, a willingness to explore, and the ability to adapt to each partner’s needs and desires.

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